Homework

HOME WORK... 2 four letter words describing an exercise in endurance and mental pain leading to aching fingers and a certainty of failure...

We just recently came home from a week in Hokkaido skiing and I though to put down how something that was a disastrous and complete holiday killer in my time, has turned into something to be managed with equinamity and, dare I say it, enjoyed!?

A few weeks before leaving for our holiday, I reminded kiddo's teacher, Mrs.K, to please not forget holiday homework for the kid. This was because we were actually going to play hooky and take her off skiing as the trip had been planned a year in advance, and before we ever knew we we going to move back to KL. I received assurances that yes, kiddo would have homework...

On the day we were to leave, kiddo came out of class toting a HUMONGOUS folder of work... In that moment, my life flashed before my eyes. Was it too late to say, 'Um, sorry, I've changed my mind about the homework'? But we were playing hooky!! Kiddo HAD to do something!! Was I to suffer too?!? In any case, Mrs.K calmly looked me in the eye and said, 'Don't worry, she can do whatever she feels like. Or not. Up to her...'

Say what??!? The kid can decide whether she's going to do her homework?? Was it reverse psychology directed at the mom? Was I being guilted into being the homework police? Was it for real?? Talk about twilight zone... In my day (don't you LOVE saying that!) holiday homework was to be completed or you got caned! It was certainly not a choice.

But you know what surprised me...? Kiddo flipped through the homework and found stuff she WANTED to do! She started while in the plane by designing (we're taking kid stuff not Einstein in case anyone's thinking of patenting my kid's drawing) a wheelchair that would allow a paraplegic to play any sport. Lots of chuckling and giggling as she designed the extendable arms to wipe the user's bum after the retractable loo was used *can't watch*... Dare I say it, she was ENJOYING her homework! This went on the whole week we were away. To tell the truth, it was not always consistent that we did the 'planned' hour a day I envisaged (yes, yes, Tiger mom...roar!). But what she did do, she did with enthusiasm and joy. So, ultimately, she didn't finish every item in the folder, but what was completed was done with enjoyment and not dread. Best of all, even mummy enjoyed it. There was sensible discussion on work rather than moaning and whining about STARTING work. How amazingly lovely!! We even spent half a day just on homework and no one felt hard done by!

So here I say again, I am SO glad we sent her to the Australian International School! Kudos to Mrs.K for an excellent selection of fun homework. Never, ever thought I would be feeling this way about homework...

Kid friendly spacer devices for asthma

It's now been almost 6 years since the little miss has been diagnosed with asthma. As any parent with an 'asthmaticky' kid knows, your life is ruled by allergies and drugs, colds and infections. Every tiny sneeze or cough has the potential of turning into a major production of hospital visits and machines etc etc. And sometimes, you never know what causes the first little cough. But before you know it, the first ominous signs of a full blown attack appear... Hack, hack, hack...wheeze, wheeze... Panic all around. It's times like that that I'm glad I have my spacer devices. After all, studies have shown that if you put 2 puffs into the spacer chamber (manufacturers will say the devices are not meant for this so I leave it up to your discretion) it works as well as having a nebuliser. Obviously, they are referring to pure salbutamol nebs alone and not the ones that mix atrovent or pulmicort in. (disclaimer: if your child is having a bad attack, they need to be seen in emergency. I certainly don't advocate sitting at home giving them puff after puff while they turn blue).

In any case, what I've realized is that if it is truly possible to avert an acute attack, very often it will be if I can get the inhaled salbutamol into her before the symptoms get too bad. Obviously, once we get home we have to do major allergy management... Meaning she gets tossed straight from the car into the shower for a massive wash down, maybe antihistamines and inhaled seretide to follow. It all depends on our initial management of the first cough and how bad the subsequent attack gets.

So... In the last 6 years, we have tried 3 devices. The first one I won't bother talking about since it was an infant device and pretty impractical for toting around being about 18 inches long. The other 2 are the Able Spacer by Clement Clarke and the AeroChamber by Boehringer Ingelheim.

Able Spacer

This is manufactured by Clement Clarke and marketed by LifeTronic Medical Systems in Bandar Sunway. Priced at RM70 + RM40 for the mask. It's not widely available in KL and I had to email the head office to get the details of their local distributor. I got my first unit in Singapore when I forgot to pack kiddo's spacer on what I thought was a short 2 day holiday (smack upside the head for an 'I should have know better' moment). My wonderful uncle rushed us to Mount Elizabeth and this is what they gave us. We elected to have it without the mask as kiddo is almost 8 and quite capable of holding her nose and breathing through her mouth. The inhaler fits neatly into the body of the spacer device and is amazingly compact. Fits my handbag and her school bag with no worries about squashing the mask or having the canister fall out somewhere. It is also very streamlined on the inside which makes washing less of a worry. My concern is that the canister being stored inside will scratch the sides and cause the salbutamol particles to stick to the walls and reduce efficacy per puff, but so far, there doesn't seem to be any appreciable difference in the effect on kiddo during an attack using either device. The big plus point for me is that kiddo goes to school with it in the bottom of her bag and I know that if she needs it, both device and canister will be in the same place. No worries about squashing the mask, and since it's in a zip lock bag, dust either. Recommended that devices are changed for new when the silicone parts appear aged.

AeroChamber

This is manufactured by Boehringer Ingelheim. Priced at RM82 at last check today with the pharmacy of a local hospital. One of the most widely available devices in Malaysia and Indonesia. Comes with attached mask. This is the device kiddo has grown up with. Not massively large though a bit cumbersome to fit in regular handbags, and great for kids who can't yet control breathing just through their mouths. So in an acute attack, when coordination is not great, this little fellow is wonderful. It has more intricate parts though, so cleaning can be a bit tricky for obsessive moms like me. I can't stick a bottle washer in at risk of scratching the insides, nor can I completely dismantle it to clean all the itty bitty parts. Also the silicon face bit can get a tad tacky if dust gets on it. Generally recommended that devices are changed for new every 6 months or so depending on usage.

My take on the both of them...

Ease of usage : the AeroChamber is definitely easier as the kid can breathe normally through it without holding her nose.

'Tote-ability' : for now, the AbleSpacer definitely wins out. It is so incredibly compact and easy to carry. As kiddo gets older and her hours away from home longer, one of my bigger worries are what would happen if she gets an attack in school. Getting a call from school and having to rush her inhalers there while I know she is struggling to breathe is one of my greatest nightmares. I firmly believe in making my child as independent as possible and this little device certainly does that. As the inhaler is stored within the device, the 2 items are always together and she doesn't have to waste precious moments scrabbling around for a missing part.

Usability : the AeroChamber is definitely the easier of the 2 to use. The child can breathe normally through nose and mouth. With the AbleSpacer, the child has to be coordinated enough to take a breath in, remove the device while holding their breath, breathe out, then take another breath through their mouth only.

Price : the AeroChamber is the cheaper all round option at Rm82 (with mask the AbleSpacer comes to RM110). Although without the mask the AbleSpacer is less.

All in all, I'm probably not going to give up kiddo's AeroChamber at home anytime soon, but the AbleSpacer (without mask) is a great device that the child can use into adulthood (since it has also been shown that spacer devices benefit adults too). In all pract

icality, the AbleSpacer is so compact that it's the only reasonable option for kiddo and myself. I find that I now carry it everywhere because it fits all my bags. So that means we no longer chance going out without her inhalers and rush home at the first sign of a cough, we ac tually treat immediately. Also, being a girl, she's going to be carrying a handbag one day, and if she's anything like me, she'll only carry it if it'll fit her evening purse :)

Photos to follow. My iPad doesn't allow me to load photos to my blog weirdly enough...

Here they are:

First off, this is a comparison of what will be going into your mummy bag... Top device is the AeroChamber and accompanying inhaler. Bottom device is the neat little AbleSpacer with inhaler inside.

Here's the AeroChamber and inhaler stuffed into my bag. Now that I don't need a diaper bag anymore, I prefer smaller totes. This is a problem as I sometimes (often actually!) elect to leave the device at home. I know, I know... bad mommy!

Here is the AbleSpacer. Isn't that nifty?! Slots into a tiny corner of my bag. Most days I don't even notice that I've gone out with it when kiddo is not with me. I was looking for that effect actually. For it to become so much a part of my bag that I would unconsciously carry it everywhere...

So there you go. My 2 cents worth on spacers. I'm all for finding the perfect balance between my kid's needs and my own. Trial and error!

Kiddo's all time favourite books

I think I've mentioned this in the past, Kiddo is a rather advanced reader. She enjoys stuff that is sometimes geared at the young adult level rather than for a 7 year old. I make sure it has none of that boy-girl 'stuff' but otherwise pretty much let her pick her own books. After all, she'll probably reread them over and over... Which means it's economical right?

Anyhow, I figured I'd put this list up in case someone else has an advanced reader and needs some book ideas. BTW if anyone is willing to share their list, I would be VERY grateful :)

So here it is...

Favourites:
1) Anything written by Adeline Yen Mah - She loves the Chinese Cinderella books and rereads them over and over

2) Luka and the fire of life - This is by Salman Rushdie. Written for his son and it's a lovely adventure story. Each person who reads it will see something different. Both kiddo and The Man got different conclusions from it and it's on my pile of kiddo-recommended books to read

3)The ark, the reed, and the fire cloud - by Jenny L. Cote. New favourite given to her by an aunt (also the parent of an advanced reader). It's about Max (scottie terrier) and Liz (cat) and their adventures in the times of the bible. Wonderful book.

4)Mao's Last Dancer - by Li Cunxin. About a Chinese ballet dancer and how he defected to America.

5)Half upon a time - by James Riley. This is a swell book! It's a new take on the fairy tales we grew up with. Another family favourite. By which I mean she reads it, then forces it on us because of how 'amazing' it is. Have to admit, I've read a couple of real gems this way.

6)21 balloons - by William Pene Dubois. She was thrilled it featured Krakatoa. I haven't got around to it yet but The Man says it's pretty good too.

Everything else she likes belongs in the secondary list. ie Geronimo Stilton, Thea Stilton, fairies, mermaids, princesses, Enid Blytons etc etc etc

Final thought about books. If available, get a kindle. The savings we have made on the books bought via kindle have already more than paid for the device... In fact, the savings have probably paid for my ipad too. Our family devours books, so despite liking the feel of a paper book, I'll go with the savings any day!

Happy reading!

Time flies...

Time has really flown. I just realized that my last post was April 2010! That's an INSANE amount of time ago... A lot has also happened.

Let's see... I went on an aid trip to bring supplies to victims of the Mount Merapi Volcano eruption, we went skiing in Zermatt, Switzerland, we went to China twice(!!) and the UK... Oh, and let's not forget the most ground shaking event of all, we moved back to KL! Yes! After 4 years (4.5 for The Man), we finally moved home. There have been days when I wish we didn't, and days I'm glad we did. I think we're dealing with it in a positive manner though, focus on the good here and remember the good there. Nothing beats having my folks around though :)

Since this is pretty much a directionless post, I thought I'd just share my relocation process. This is in no way me taking pot shots at The Man, it just totally illustrates the whole 'Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus' theory.

It all began in early November 2011...

My dear maker of pronouncements told me that we would be moving back to KL sometime in 2012. No biggie. Question was did the kid finish out the school year or not. The next day, he decided that we should pop over to KL the week after that in order to look at schools. 'Why the rush?' you may ask (and indeed I DID ask that)... Reply, 'No big reason, just better to be informed now than be surprised next year.' Hmmm, totally reasonable at this point. Indeed, the education was a large factor of my wanting to stay put in Jakarta. Kiddo was getting such a good education at ACS that I really didn't want to rock the boat... At that stage, that is.

In any case, we came home and went to see The Australian International school and Alice Smith. More about that later... AISM was the better fit we thought. However their school year started end of January and kiddo would face either repeating half of grade 2 or skipping half of grade 2. Neither of which I was entirely in favour of. Still, AISM was head and shoulders above any other option that we looked at based on how we envisaged the kid's education progressing. So off we went to mull things over.

That very evening, The Man suddenly announced that he had terminated our Jakarta lease for the next year (after negotiating for 6 months) and would try and get the owner to rent it for 1 more month so that kiddo could finish the term. Hello!! Talk about unilateral decisions!! Next thing you know, owner says no deal, and we have to be out in 2 weeks and apend the remainder 2 weeks of term in a service apartment!! Following that was a harrowing week of begging our previous movers (I *heart* Ima of IMS movers) to come in and assess the stuff that we had accumulated over the last 4 years. Of course, The Man then also decrees that we are not moving furniture.. ie Get rid of it somehow, I don't care how...

At this point I was beyond panic. More along the lines of catatonia. All my school and church commitments... I couldn't see how to sort everything out in the few weeks left. When I told him it was kinda unreasonable to expect me to sort all this out in such a short time, his reply was, 'I planned it all in my head. Just didn't tell you so you wouldn't be stressed...' D'oh!!!

To this day, he denies that he said it exactly that way. But that's what I heard and I'm standing by it!! Anyway, I look back now and think that it makes a great anecdote and example of the differences between the sexes, or at the least, the difference between us two strange, completely different individuals, who despite all these differences (and believe me, there are A LOT!!) have managed to stay together for almost 19years (married for only 11.5 though, we couldn't make up our minds on when was a good time) and mostly importantly, are almost in perfect accord when it comes to bringing up our kid...

Life is weird, God is laughing...